A fragile being.

A woman’s heart is one of the most fragile things I know yet her spirit is one of the most resilient. Her heart breaks at the slightest provocation yet her spirit gives her the strength to carry on even when she has no idea how to. Show a woman a destitute child in dire need and her heart breaks. Confront her with a friend going through a trying situation and she can’t help herself. Put her in a relationship that though not working she has invested herself in and although she knows it is in her best interest to walk away, she crumbles from within. Give her a child in pain and it kills her from within that she cannot take it all away.


Though it is a gift, her fragile nature is almost always her greatest undoing. If unguarded it makes her so easy to manipulate, hold hostage and to abuse. It may drive her to seek validation from without as opposed to from within; which only weakens her and erodes her self-esteem leaving her dependent on others for affirmation on her self worth. It makes her susceptible to the comparison syndrome where she holds others on a higher pedestal than herself. Eventually she loses her identity and metamorphosis into what she thinks others want her to be.

However the reality of life is that someone will always seem to be able to do certain tasks better than you, someone will always seem prettier, more endowed physically and materially but that doesn’t make you less of a person. It only validates the fact that we are all unique beings. The truth being, we all have unique potential and attributes and there is never a need for comparison.

It is upon realizing this that she taps into that unique strength with which she is equipped to enable her rise against all the odds and go for what she believes in. it is that strength that enables her to sit for a moment in the pain of her past mistakes and failures, reflect, resolve and move on with life.

Her fragile nature teaches her to be cautious. To be careful about what she allows to permeate her being. It also comes with intuition that guides her along the way to achieving her goals. Along the way, she learns how to appreciate and nurture her fragile self. She learns how to remind herself she’s special, even when no one else thinks the same. She learns how to tap into that inner strength to carry her the distance when her heart fails her. She learns she’s a woman and although she is fragile she has the strength to overcome each and every obstacle and achieve that which she sets her eyes upon.